You always said that you’d be out if your partner ever had an affair.

You really meant it.

But now that it’s actually happened to you, you’re not so certain.

If every relationship goes through harmony, disharmony, and repair, an affair can be to the relationship like taking a hammer to a piece of ceramic – completely shattering everything that the couple has known their relationship to be. And, to be clear, there’s a long road of repair ahead for the couple who decides to work on the relationship, so it’s understandable that not every couple chooses to.

No matter what, there is no easy way of moving forward with this decision but with the right help the transition can be smoother for both you and your family.

You recognize that no one is perfect, and that no relationship is perfect, but you also know that things could be better than they are.

The decision about whether or not to stay in a marriage is not one you should have to make alone.

You want to be intimate with your partner, but do not know how because you are so hurt by this affair.

Boundaries are a topic that comes up with each of my clients.