Should I Stay or Should I Go?

You hate to admit that you have thought more than once about leaving your husband. It’s not something that you’ve shared with many people, if anyone, and as much as you’ve tried to shove this thought away, it persists, like a stubborn weed. 

People tell you that it will get better, that this is just a hard season of marriage and of life and you want more than anything to believe them but even as you try, you remember that you have been feeling like this for years and it becomes hard to imagine anything changing.

You fantasize about what it might be like to have your own space again, to not have to constantly think about what your spouse is or isn’t doing, to not have to feel like you have another child to take care of on top of your actual children.

You picture living without the constant bickering and passive aggressive comments, and you feel relief. And immediately afterwards, you feel guilt, remorse and fear.

How could you think about doing something so selfish?

What would it do to the kids?

Maybe you come from a “broken” home yourself and told yourself that you would never do that to your children. Or maybe the “D” word was never even mentioned in your family growing up, it was so taboo. In either case, the decision about whether or not to stay in a marriage is not one you should have to make alone.

Please call Harper Therapy at 813-434-3639 so that we can help you work towards making the right decision for you and your family, no matter what the outcome is.