A lot of pent-up emotion and frustration can build up for the average six years it takes for people to get the help they need. We see couples that are on their last leg here all the time. We are always asked if we can help them, and we tell them we can, but it will take work from both of them.

When we have been programmed through modeling to bring our baggage into our relationships, and then we wait on average six years to start getting help for it, that is going to take time to work through.

When it comes to relationships, we often do what we have seen our parents or guardians model in their relationships. This may be good, or this may be bad depending on the kind of relationship our parents have or had. If you grew up in a household where the relationship between your parents was explosive and volatile, you are most likely repeating that in your current relationships.

The length of time couples wait before seeking help can vary greatly depending on individual circumstances, cultural factors, and the nature of the relationship issues. However, research and anecdotal evidence suggest that couples often wait an average of six years from the onset of problems before seeking professional help.

No matter what, there is no easy way of moving forward with this decision but with the right help the transition can be smoother for both you and your family.

You recognize that no one is perfect, and that no relationship is perfect, but you also know that things could be better than they are.

The decision about whether or not to stay in a marriage is not one you should have to make alone.

You’re not happy in your relationship but it’s scary to think about breaking the family up and starting over.

We help you to get out of your you-me stances of dysfunctional relationship patterns, and reconnect to the “us” of being on the same team and fighting FOR your relationship instead of with each other.

You want to be intimate with your partner, but do not know how because you are so hurt by this affair.

It is good to hear a sincere apology from your partner after the affair and feel validated. But, you need more than words, you also need to see some change because to you, actions speak louder than words.

It feels like the world has stopped since you first heard about the affair. You don't understand how people are walking their dog and buying groceries, as if nothing has changed.