A lot of pent-up emotion and frustration can build up for the average six years it takes for people to get the help they need. We see couples that are on their last leg here all the time. We are always asked if we can help them, and we tell them we can, but it will take work from both of them.

When we have been programmed through modeling to bring our baggage into our relationships, and then we wait on average six years to start getting help for it, that is going to take time to work through.

When it comes to relationships, we often do what we have seen our parents or guardians model in their relationships. This may be good, or this may be bad depending on the kind of relationship our parents have or had. If you grew up in a household where the relationship between your parents was explosive and volatile, you are most likely repeating that in your current relationships.

The length of time couples wait before seeking help can vary greatly depending on individual circumstances, cultural factors, and the nature of the relationship issues. However, research and anecdotal evidence suggest that couples often wait an average of six years from the onset of problems before seeking professional help.

your military spouse just received news that they will push the date out one more time, and now you are in that infamous military saying, Hurry up and wait. In the meantime, you are irritated, annoyed, and just over it

I a military family moving sucks, uprooting the family and setting in a new place is such a hassle but how do you overcome this?

Self-compassion teaches you to treat yourself with kindness, and empowerment helps you walk away from anything that threatens self-compassion.

Fantasy is a coping skill you used as a kid to escape the cruel reality.

As a child, you learn to blame yourself as a coping skill in response to your parent's emotional neglect and lack of emotional intelligence.

We help you to get out of your you-me stances of dysfunctional relationship patterns, and reconnect to the “us” of being on the same team and fighting FOR your relationship instead of with each other.

You want to be intimate with your partner, but do not know how because you are so hurt by this affair.

You cannot seem to let your partner in, you keep thinking about the affair and still feel like you cannot trust your partner. You want to let it go but there is this nagging part of you that tells you to be careful and to make them pay for what they did.