Finding yourself within your relationship

Each partner enters the relationship with their own history. I read a meme once that said, “Everyone has baggage, find someone that will help you unpack yours”. At Harper Therapy, we work through each individual's story in couples therapy to help restore that intimacy and to help you better understand one another.

When is it time to get therapy?

Self-compassion teaches you to treat yourself with kindness, and empowerment helps you walk away from anything that threatens self-compassion.

Fantasy is a coping skill you used as a kid to escape the cruel reality.

As a child, you learn to blame yourself as a coping skill in response to your parent's emotional neglect and lack of emotional intelligence.

It is hard to accept that the person you think loves you the most could also be the cause of your deepest pain.

Boundaries are a powerful tool in our self-care toolbox. Boundaries can set our own limits. Boundaries can set others’ limits concerning ourselves. Boundaries clearly mark what is ours to care for and boundaries clearly mark what is someone else’s area to care for. Boundaries give us space to live and move and breathe. Boundaries can protect us.

Loneliness is one of the most powerful emotions in the human experience. It is also common to our human experience. And, one of the most misunderstood and painful.

Does the thought of seeing that certain someone this holiday season fill you with dread? Maybe it's the home of a relative that never goes well? Or the office Christmas party that tends to end poorly.

Do you dread the holidays because of social gatherings? Does the thought of another holiday party fill you with dread? Do you have constant nagging thoughts of what others are thinking of you?

Therapy addresses the emotional, psychological, relational, and spiritual well-being of the individual.  Let’s be honest. The patchwork of our existence whether it involves relationships, jobs, children, social issues or whatever, there’s bound to be stress, anxiety, depression, grief, problem solving, trauma, and the list goes on where the help of a therapist is needed.