As you progress throughout life and you have untreated or what we trauma therapists call “trapped trauma,” your mental health symptoms will continue to worsen.

As people progress throughout life, there are signs that they have not dealt with their trauma, especially to the trained eye. This manifests in two ways. They either internalize their pain and suffering or externalize their pain and suffering.

It is inevitable that at some point during your lifetime you are going to suffer with grief not once, but probably multiple times. Most people have the misconception that grief only encompasses the death of a loved one.

The more significant your trauma, and the more of it (compound trauma), exponentially affects brain development, the immune system, hormonal systems, and even the way our DNA is read and transcribed (replicated).

In 2017 Yolanda gave a TEDx Talk about the power of eye movements and its ability help heal trauma. It is a powerful presentation on how Accelerated Resolution Therapy and bi-lateral stimulation are great tools used by therapists to help people resolve trauma in their lives. 

We reparent ourselves into learning that our inner voice is correct, that our emotions are valid, that the expression of our sadness, fear or anger are not weakness, that we are worthy by holding space for ourselves and creating compassion. We can become the parents we did not have or the parents we needed and wanted.

How dare I compare Star Wars to Harry Potter, you may say. Well let’s chat and look at the movies from a purely factual perspective. We have young orphan boys, raised by family members who know their inherent power but suppress any inkling of them expressing said power.

We will speak, however, about generational trauma. Now let us talk, heart to heart. Think of the times when we thought that we were not enough, not smart enough, not athletic enough, not pretty enough, not strong enough, not flexible enough.

When most people think about grief, they think the loss of a person. Grief is so much more than that. Grief can be the loss of a relationship, of a job, or even the loss of a hope or dream. We have a right to grieve anything that we lose.

But when those experiences are addressed and healed, you’re able to show up in those relationships differently. And a change in one part of the system leads to a change in the system.

Domestic violence happens in all types of households. Your education level, socioeconomic status, race, ethnicity, gender, religion does not matter…domestic violence happens, and if you are living through it, we want to let you know that it is not a sign that you are weak, or that you are bad, or that you are to blame.