How an Individual Intensive Can Help Your Relationship

After being a trauma therapist for more than a decade, it shouldn’t surprise me, but it still does.  Actually, scratch that.  It delights me.  

I ask each individual intensive client to give me feedback after our intensive time together, and time and time again, I hear things like…

“My partner is so surprised by the change that they see in me that now they want to start therapy.”

“I have a new marriage.”

“I’m proud of the new way that I handle myself in my relationship.” 

But wait!  How can an individual intensive help with a relationship?  Isn’t that what your Couples Intensives are for?

Well, yes.  And no.

You see, one of the reasons I became a trauma therapist is because I know the impact that trauma has on relationships.  On marriages.  On families.  Often, a person comes in for trauma treatment not so much for the impact that the trauma has had on them, but the toll that it’s taken on the people around them.

If you grew up in an abusive or neglectful environment, this impacts your “attachment style”  -- basically, you have a hard time feeling that relationships can truly be safe and loving.  Even if you experienced other types of trauma later in life, it’s hard to be fully present in a relationship when your brain is in constant fight/flight/freeze mode.

But when those experiences are addressed and healed, you’re able to show up in those relationships differently.  And a change in one part of the system leads to a change in the system.

And while addressing your history doesn’t change your partner or the dynamics that they bring to the relationship, it certainly gets the ball rolling in the right direction for the two of you.

And you’ll be more at peace.  More confident.  

So an individual intensive isn’t “selfish”.  Nor is it a waste of time when you think about how it might benefit yourself and your partner.  Would you like more information about how an individual intensive would not only help you meet your individual goals, but move you forward in your relationship, as well?  Call to schedule your free consultation and have your questions answered.