Why Am I So Tired All The Time?

Sometimes, it feels like you can never catch up. As soon as you accomplish one thing or take care of one task, something else seems to pop up and it feels impossible to get off of the hamster wheel. There are times where you remember why you started down this path in the first place...you imagined a life for yourself with a family that you love and where you were able to provide a comfortable life for them. And from what it looks like on the outside, you've done a pretty good job of this. On the inside, however, is another story. You find yourself irritable and sometimes even downright angry at your wife, kids, co-workers, even the barista at Starbucks.

The person you fell in love with all those years ago feels more like a roommate these days, with you passing information back and forth minus any real connection. You love your kids to death and always imagined the type of father you'd be, but sometimes you see yourself acting like your own father, who is someone you always told yourself you'd never turn into. You might attribute these feelings to stress, to your boss constantly piling more work on you, to your wife always expecting you to do more, to not being able to pursue any of your former hobbies or passions. Sometimes it's easier to look outside of ourselves and try to find the answers there. Unfortunately, those answers will be hard to come by unless we're willing to acknowledge what is actually going on, on the inside.

It's possible that you may be dealing with grief. "Grief", you ask? "What does grief have to do with anything? I haven't lost anyone. I'm still in the same relationship. How can I be feeling grief?" We are here to tell you that grief is not just about the death of a person or the end of a relationship; it encompasses so much more, like the loss of a dream or a precious illusion we may have been holding onto. Grief can come about when things don't work out the way we might have expected or we don't get the promotion we were hoping for. Underneath those emotions that seem easier to identify, there is likely some grief that maybe your life isn't where you thought it would be at this point. At Harper Therapy, we talk about the uncomfortable emotions that most of us try to avoid and that keep coming back in one form or another until we are willing to deal with them.

If any of this sounds like your story, please give us a call at 813-434-3639.