Relational Life Therapy Relationship Coaching: A Pathway to Authentic Connection

At Harper Therapy, we use the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model for couples coaching and couples therapy. This model for working with couples is a fantastic framework. Working with relationships can be very complex work. It often requires more than just basic therapeutic skills. 

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) Coaching is an innovative approach designed to help individuals and couples develop healthier and more authentic relationships. Developed by Terry Real, this model blends elements of systems therapy, feminist therapy, and traditional coaching to offer a comprehensive framework for relational growth. RLT coaching helps clients improve their relationships not only with their partners but also with themselves, their family, friends, and colleagues. It is grounded in the principles of RLT, which emphasizes honesty, accountability, and relational empowerment.

At the core of RLT coaching is the belief that individuals adopt dysfunctional patterns in their relationships based on their past experiences. These patterns may have served them in their previous environments but are maladaptive in their current relationships. RLT (Relational Life Therapy) coaches compassionately guide clients to understand how these adaptations are no longer serving them and how they are showing up in their current relationships in ways that create disconnection or conflict. The coaching process involves waking clients up to these patterns, helping them explore their family of origin, and teaching them lifelong relational skills that will lead to lasting change and more intimate relationships.

RLT coaching works in three phases. First, the coach helps the client "wake up," which means they become aware of how their behavior is contributing to their relational struggles. This phase is direct and often challenging, but it quickly builds trust between the coach and the client by addressing issues head-on. The second phase is family-of-origin and contextual work, where the coach assists clients in understanding how their past has influenced their current relational dynamics. Finally, the third phase involves teaching powerful relational skills that clients can use to create healthier, more connected relationships in all areas of their lives.

The transformative power of Relational Life Therapy RLT coaching lies in its ability to effect dramatic character changes and rapid relational transformations. Clients are taught to move beyond the limiting beliefs and behaviors that have hindered their relational success, and they are equipped with the tools they need to maintain these changes. RLT coaching offers a structured yet flexible approach, allowing clients to experience growth and healing in a supportive, compassionate environment.

Overall, RLT coaching provides an empowering journey for individuals and couples seeking to build extraordinary relationships. By combining relational skills with self-awareness and emotional healing, this model offers a powerful solution for those who want to improve their relationships and live more fulfilling lives.

At Harper Therapy all of our therapists work from the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model when working with relationships. We also have a Relationship Coach on our team who solely focuses on relationships and working with couples. Shamon Harper is a Relationship Coach and Co-Founder of Harper Therapy. Shamon can help you identify what you need and want in your relationship and help you build a more connected and intimate relationship. 

If you are interested in learning more about relationship coaching call our office at 813-434-3639.